Adoption
Adoption Attorneys in North Carolina
Adoption is more than a legal process—it’s a deeply personal journey that changes lives. At NicholsonPham, we’re proud to help individuals and families across North Carolina grow through adoption, whether through stepparent adoption, private placement, agency adoption, or re-adoption.
With decades of experience and three attorneys recognized as fellows of the American Academy of Adoption and Assisted Reproduction Attorneys (AAAA), we bring unmatched insight to even the most complex adoption matters. We regularly work with attorneys across the United States on interstate and international adoptions, and are honored to help clients take this life-changing step with clarity, care, and legal strength.
Types of Adoption We Handle
North Carolina recognizes several forms of adoption, each with its own legal requirements. Our team provides experienced representation in:
- Stepparent Adoption: When a spouse wishes to adopt their partner’s child, this often involves terminating the parental rights of a non-participating parent. These adoptions require consent or legal justification and can be highly sensitive.
- Independent (Private) Adoption: In a private adoption, a parent or guardian places their child directly with a chosen adoptive family. These adoptions typically involve consent paperwork, pre-placement assessments, and court filings, but no agency.
- Agency Adoption: In this type of adoption, a child is surrendered to a licensed child-placing agency—such as a nonprofit agency or a county Department of Social Services (DSS)—which then places the child with adoptive parents. The birth parents retain a seven-day revocation period after relinquishment.
- Relative Adoption: This includes adoptions by grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, or extended family. These cases often arise when a biological parent is unavailable, unfit, or voluntarily relinquishing rights.
- Re-Adoption: Re-adoption gives legal recognition in North Carolina to a child previously adopted in a foreign country. It’s often used to obtain an English-language decree, a certificate of foreign birth, or to legally change a child’s name.
- Interstate Adoption: When a child is placed across state lines, both states’ legal requirements must be met under the Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children (ICPC). We help coordinate ICPC clearances and ensure legal compliance across jurisdictions.
- International Adoption: Adopting a child from another country requires compliance with both the foreign country’s laws and U.S. immigration requirements. We work alongside international adoption attorneys and always recommend involving an immigration attorney to address citizenship issues.
Open vs. Closed Adoption
In an open adoption, the adoptive parents and birth parents may know each other’s identities, communicate directly, and even maintain contact throughout the child’s life. In a closed adoption, identifying information is restricted and contact is limited or nonexistent. While most adoptions are often described as existing along a spectrum of openness, North Carolina law places limitations on the enforceability of open adoption arrangements, and all adoptions are ultimately finalized as closed under state law. Our attorneys can help you understand what communication and contact may be appropriate, permissible, and realistically sustainable within these legal boundaries.
Direct vs. Agency Placement
There are two primary ways a child may be placed for adoption:
- Direct (Independent) Placement: A parent or guardian places the child directly with a chosen adoptive family, often found through personal networks or matching services.
- Agency Placement: A licensed adoption agency or DSS places the child with the adoptive parents after a legal relinquishment.
Each process has distinct legal steps, including consents, pre-placement assessments, and sometimes, termination of parental rights. Our attorneys ensure every document is handled with care, compliance, and compassion.
Adoption Services for All Families
Whether you’re adopting as a stepparent, navigating a same-sex step-parent adoption, or seeking to bring a grandchild or niece into your home permanently, NicholsonPham provides inclusive, nonjudgmental legal guidance. We are particularly honored to support LGBTQ+ families, families with complex dynamics, and clients building connections across cultural or national boundaries.
Key Takeaways
- We handle independent, agency, stepparent, relative, re-adoption, interstate, and international adoptions
- NicholsonPham attorneys are recognized fellows of the AAAA and collaborate with lawyers nationwide
- We help ensure compliance with ICPC, ICWA, and all court requirements
- Our firm provides inclusive representation for LGBTQIA+ and non-traditional families
- Whether you need full representation or North Carolina coordination, we’re here to help
Ready to grow your family? Let NicholsonPham guide you through every step of the adoption process. Contact us today to schedule a consultation.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
GENERAL ADOPTION FAQs
In the ever-changing legal landscape of post marriage-equality, NicholsonPham is counseling our lesbian clients to do a stepparent adoption (or “confirmatory” adoption) of their children, born to married mothers, EVEN IF YOUR NAME IS ALREADY ON THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE
Birth certificates are not the same as legal orders of adoption/parentage:
- A birth certificate is a document issued through an administrative process and is not a court order.
- A birth certificate is based on relationship between the spouses only and not the relationship between parent and child.
- Parentage based solely on having a name on a birth certificate can be challenged in a divorce – and there are several cases out there where that has happened.
- Parentage based solely on having a name on a birth certificate might not be recognized by all judges/courts.
- A court in another state is not compelled to recognize parentage based on a birth certificate; but such a court is compelled to recognize an adoption decree based on the full faith and credit clause of the US Constitution.
- A birth certificate without the name of a sperm donor does not effectively terminate his rights; that can only be done through a termination of rights proceeding or by doing a stepparent adoption.
Parentage based solely on have a name on a birth certificate may notbe sufficient for some inheritance purposes, for social security benefits for a minor, and possibly for claiming a child as a dependent under the tax code.
In North Carolina, as in many states, the process of adoption is complicated and can be lengthy. Having an experienced attorney to guide you through the process is imperative to ensure that the adoption is granted and is final. The lawyers at NicholsonPham has successfully handled hundreds of adoptions - and Sharon Thompson, Of Counsel to our firm, was invited to become a member of the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys, a national organization of approximately only 340 attorneys who are experts in the complexities of state adoption laws, as well as interstate and international adoption laws and regulations.
To adopt a minor child, you’ll need some or all of the following things:
- The consent of the minor child’s birth and/or legal mother
- The consent of the minor child’s birth and/or legal father
- A preplacement assessment or “home study” that shows that your family is appropriate to adopt a child
- Information about the biological mother and father of the child
- A postplacement assessment or “report to the court” that shows that the child is doing well in your home and that the adoption is in the “best interest” of the child.
Family members can adopt each other, although you still may have to have the consent of the minor child’s birth/legal parents. Family members that adopt each other might not be required to have a home study or report to court. This can save hundreds of dollars. A consultation with NicholsonPham can help you determine what requirements will be waived for your family adoption.
These cases can be challenging. If the child’s parent has abandoned the child, it may be possible to terminate their parental rights. Or, if they can’t be located to get their consent, we may be able to publish a notice in the local newspaper. Either way, the court is going to want to know where the child’s birth/legal parents are. Our lawyers work with the facts of your particular case to determine the best way to move forward.
There are many agencies and websites that can help prospective parents prepare for an adoption and find children that might be available for adoption. One good resource is www.adoptivefamilies.com.
No. Due to the ethical rules governing attorneys, as well North Carolina law, attorneys in this state are not allowed to assist clients with finding and placing children for adoption. Only licensed agencies can do that.
It depends. Sometimes, the consent of a birth father isn’t required. However, that is a determination which is made by the Clerk of Court or a judge. In other situations, it may be necessary to terminate the Parental Rights of a birth/legal parent. NicholsonPham has experience in these type of District Court proceedings and we can advise you whether a TPR petition will be necessary before you can adopt a child.
It depends. Fees for adoptions can be divided in four categories:
- Fees for the attorney who files the adoption. This fee can vary, depending on the complexity of the case. When you come in to NicholsonPham for a consultation, we’ll discuss the facts of your particular case and quote you a fee for legal services.
- A fee to the court for the filing and any additional documents, such as a criminal background check. The court currently charges $120 for an adoption filing. Background checks can run anywhere from $25 to $100, depending on how quickly you want them done.
- A fee to the agency that performs the preplacement assessment and report to the court. These fees also vary, depending on the agency, and can run anywhere from $300 - $2000. Private agencies will typically charge more than the local Department of Social Services.
- Expenses for the birth and/or legal parents. We also recommend that there be an attorney to represent the birth and/or legal parents of the child so that they understand the process and sign the necessary documents properly.
Your spouse may be able to adopt your child. If there is another legal parent to the child, that person must consent to an adoption by your spouse or their rights must be terminated before your spouse can adopt. Stepparent adoptions are common in North Carolina. In these types of adoptions, you will not need a preplacement assessment or “home study” but you may still be required to file a postplacement report with the court.
Stepparent adoptions are highly recommended for lesbian couples, where one wife gave birth to the child. That stepparent adoption will give full, legal status to the second mother as a legal parent.
Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children (ICPC) is the law which requires that a child who is born in a state other than the state you reside in becomes eligible or “placeable” for adoption. Each state has an ICPC office and prior to the adoption of any child that is subject to the Compact, you will have to “clear” ICPC in both states. For example, if a child is born in Texas but you live in North Carolina and want to adopt here, then you will need an attorney who is very familiar with the ICPC adoption rules in order to bring the child to North Carolina for adoption.
Yes, unless you adopt your stepchild. Adoptions of children, except stepparent adoptions, may be eligible for a federal tax credit under the current rules. This tax credit can help save you thousands of dollars. NicholsonPham always recommends that you speak with a tax advisor to determine your eligibility.
If you are adopting a child, we recommend that you ask the agency and/or the birth parents whether anyone has applied for a social security number already. If your child doesn’t already have a social security number, then you can request one while the adoption is pending. The Internal Revenue Service offers an ATIN – an Adoption Taxpayer Identification Number which serves as a temporary ID number so that you can claim the child as your dependent or claim the child care credit. This number is only good for two years. Once the adoption is finalized, you can take a certified copy of the adoption decree to your local Social Security office and request a social security number, if your child doesn’t already have one. Or, you can ask the Social Security office to issue a new social security number.
Adoptions in North Carolina are confidential and not a public record. Our adoption laws do permit the release of certain non-identifying information and if information is given to a court or adoption agency that may affect the health of an adoptee or the adoptee’s children, a reasonable effort may be made to contact and forward such information to an adult adoptee or the adoptee’s adoptive parents. Our laws prohibit the release of identifying information. However, an adoptee can file a legal proceeding to try and obtain a court order to open an adoption file and find out any identifying or medical information. These types of proceedings are rare and are only done if you can prove to the Court that there’s a very good reason you need to know this information. Unfortunately, North Carolina does not presently have a registry system whereby birth parents and adoptees can be informed if someone is searching for them.
AGENCY ADOPTION FAQs
Ask your adoption agency what services their contract will cover. Typically, you will need:
- Preparation of relinquishment paperwork
- Preparation and completion of background health history paperwork
- Preparation and completion of birth mother affidavits as to parentage
- A home study and report to court
- Possible termination of parental rights of the father
- Filing the adoption petition and all necessary attachments
In North Carolina, a child-placing agency is an agency that has been given a license by the NC Division of Social Services.
Absolutely. The attorneys at NicholsonPham work with many adoption agencies, both in North Carolina and outside the state.
We recommend that the potential adoptive parent(s) meet with the agency to make sure it’s a good fit. For example, some agencies will not work with gay parents or with parents who don’t practice Christianity.
A full list of NC licensed adoption agencies can be found here:
https://www2.ncdhhs.gov/dss/licensing/docs/cpalistadoption.pdf
PRIVATE ADOPTION FAQs
It’s not required, but it’s a good idea and we strongly recommend it in order to minimize the possibility of challenges to the validity of the adoption in the future.
Yes. The attorneys at NicholsonPham have experience representing adoptive parents and birth parents.
An initial consultation as soon as possible is an excellent way to meet the attorneys at NicholsonPham, and get answers to your questions about the process of an independent adoption. We will review the steps to an adoption, the costs, the possible pitfalls and the timeline.
North Carolina prohibits paying for a child. However, it is permissible to pay for the expenses of a birth parent. Often those expenses are attorney fees, transportation costs, medical costs and other expenses incurred during the time the birth mother is pregnant.